You may be wondering when I am going to get around to explaining how you can influence and alter your future, but I want to lay foundations first and discuss different aspects of this lifechanging information that I intend to share with you. Perspective plays a big part in determining your happiness levels. Every person has a different perspective on life events, big or small, as you can see with person 1 and person 2 in the rain in my second discussion. They had a completely different perspective on the rain, and one was happy and the other, unhappy. How we view hardship, loss, poverty, life events, etc, will determine how content we are and if we are constantly feeling negative about events or situations, then we will only be living half a life. Learning to adopt a positive perspective is key to our happiness, our contentment and our satisfaction with life. Generally, if a person has a positive view of challenging situations and events, that person will be happier than someone with a negative view.
Take the death of a loved one, for example. Please be clear, I do not suggest for a moment that we should treat such an event as trivial or insignificant, but we need to find the best way of coping with what is an extremely sad time. A negative perspective will fill us with anger (at God for taking our loved one), frustration (at not being able to make the person better), and a huge feeling of loss of power and control over the situation. All these negative feelings will bring us to our knees, mentally, emotionally and physically. Now, I’m not suggesting we should feel positive about someone’s death (unless, of course, it is someone you hate!) but we can try to look at the positive side. Surely, it is a blessing that they are not suffering and in pain any more. They have found peace and we can be happy for them. You may feel your heart is breaking but, for the deceased loved one, it is a blessed release from the pain, loss of faculties and often the loss of dignity. They are free at last.
Perspective applies to every area of our lives, big or small, and it’s how we deal with it that makes the difference between filling us with angst every hour that we are awake, or giving thanks for all the good things in life. Giving thanks for everything, even the bad things, will be another discussion.
I will finish with a little story: –
I like buying and selling stuff on Ebay (who doesn’t!) and a few years ago I used to buy old picture frames, refurbish them and put in mirror glass to sell as vintage mirrors. One lady contacted me via Ebay’s message system saying, ‘Oh, my goodness, I was terrified to open the parcel as I could hear pieces rattling around. Anyway, I plucked up courage and, to my horror, the mirror was smashed to bits. Oh, I’m devastated!!!’ She delivered an award-winning, highly theatrical spiel and on reading the words, I could almost ‘see’ her jumping up and down, grabbing the tissues and mopping her brow. I calmly replied ‘Please, don’t worry, I will refund your money. I would suggest you reserve the word “devastating” for something a tad more important’. She did not reply.
That’s all for today. In the next discussion, I will talk about ‘visualisation’. I will explain how you can use this to materialise the things you want: money, success, good health, a better job, etc, and attract the kind of life you desire. Thanks for dropping by.